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Gay Males from Christian backgrounds – fragmented, conforming or integrated

By |2016-12-10T04:59:44+00:00March 16th, 2015|Categories: Gay Christian, LGBTI|Tags: , |

Over the years I have observed that gay males from Christian backgrounds often go through a process. It begins with fragmentation through to conforming and some make it to integration. Our real self is the gay self. We may have turned to Christianity because of our homosexuality or discovered it growing up as Christian young [...]

Stages of Coming Out and Reconciling Our Sexual Identity

By |2019-01-03T17:24:40+00:00January 10th, 2015|Categories: A Life of Unlearning, LGBTI, LGBTI Therapy|Tags: |

  The process of coming out and resolving our sexuality is rarely simple. It is a process and a journey. There is no timetable either. I have worked with teens who have reached the final step of celebration and people in their 60's who have just arrived at stage 7.  The factors that thwart the [...]

Challenges for LGBTI people from Pentecostal/Charismatic backgrounds

By |2019-01-03T17:25:29+00:00August 12th, 2014|Categories: Church, Gay Christian, LGBTI Therapy|Tags: , , , |

Why is it so hard? Resolving the perceived conflict of faith and sexuality is a difficult path for most people from a traditional/conservative Christian culture. LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) people from Pentecostal or Charismatic backgrounds have specific needs to be addressed in order to resolve that internal conflict. LGBT people from Pentecostal and Charismatic [...]

What are the stages of coming out of the closet?

By |2018-11-29T00:20:24+00:00July 13th, 2014|Categories: LGBTI|Tags: |

The idea of coming out is older than many realize but it has taken nearly one and half centuries for concept to become widely spread and experienced.  History In 1869 the German homosexual rights advocate Karl Heinrich Ulrichs talked about coming out as a means of emancipation. Ulrichs claimed that invisibility was a major obstacle [...]

Suffering, death, resurrection. Easter, it’s a gay journey

By |2018-03-31T22:32:58+00:00April 20th, 2014|Categories: Gay Christian, LGBTI|Tags: , |

Last Saturday night I lit a candle in the upstairs bar of the Stonewall Hotel as members of the LGBT community, straight friends and allies gathered for the #Vigil4Hope.  A symbolic act? A ritual? #Vigil4Hope was held to remember LGBT people who had taken their own lives because the torment of trying to reconcile their [...]

What is closet hokey pokey?

By |2018-12-01T12:11:00+00:00April 25th, 2013|Categories: Gay Christian, LGBTI, Mixed Orientation Marriage|Tags: , |

They're out. They're in. They're out. They're in. They're out. They're in.  They are playing closet hokey pokey. Closet hokey pokey’ is a phenomena I have observed working with gay men and lesbians from faith backgrounds for many years now. Closet hokey pokey doesn't occur as frequently amongst those from non-faith backgrounds. If you come [...]

Ex-gay = contradictions, denial and mental gymnastics

By |2018-03-22T18:57:59+00:00November 3rd, 2012|Categories: Conversion therapy|Tags: , , , , |

When people say they are struggling with unwanted same sex attraction and seek to be ex-gay, their minds play all manner of crazy tricks on them in order to keep the hope alive. Insidious denial, contradictions and mental gymnastics are the only way they can maintain the ex-gay facade. It's a sad and tragic reality [...]

Son Comes Out to Father in a Restaurant – Not Good…..at first

By |2017-04-29T13:23:12+00:00August 7th, 2012|Categories: LGBTI, Video|Tags: |

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