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  • AvatarDamian
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    I came out to someone at the church I was involved with when I was a teenager, I was told that me sexuality is a sin and that if I truly loved God I would leave a life of abstinence. This church member came back to me with information about a group called Homosexuals Anonymous that could help me live a life of abstinence or cure me of my homosexuality. A lot of people stopped talking with me until I ended up moving in and living with the man who was running HA meetings. I lived HA for approximately six months. Homosexuals Anonymous meetings were once a week but because I was living with the man running Homosexuals Anonymous. I lived and breathed the program 24/7! It was the darkest time of my life ! Most of my family and friends had stopped talking with me, I was very alone, the program was making me feel sinful, dirty and I was ashamed of my sexuality! I was told that I could never have a fulfilling relationship with a man because it would be a relationship based on sin. I had the lock taken off of my bedroom door at HA and was accused of having sex with men in my room , it was actually another form of control and giving me no privacy, I was told that I dressed proactively because I would wear tight fitting shirts, it was a very confusing time for me because on one hand he was telling me how wrong my sexuality is but on the other hand he made overtures to have sex with me! My self esteem went downhill and I was suicidal. A cousin of mine rescued me from Homosexuals Anonymous. I was using drugs heavily and was very promiscuous and became anti religious. I went into therapy for many years after Homosexuals Anonymous, I am now comfortable with my sexuality although I do live with OCD and PTSD and sometimes fear that I am going to hell but all in all I know that I am loved by God regardless of my sexuality! Programs such as HA are dangerous!!! Heaps of churches these days are so much more accepting of the LGBT+ community, my advice would be to seek out these churches and to surround yourself with people who will support, nurture and celebrate you!

    AvatarPhoenix
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    Hi Damian

    And welcome to our family,firstly thankyou for your openess and honesty of your own personal journey.

    I have connected to an amazing community church in Adelaide, that supports people from ALL walks of life and I can say it has been life saving for my personal journey in accepting my true identity.

    And we dont have to walk alone, it takes more than courage to unveil yourself and it takes courage to reach out to someone whom needs guidance.

    Welcome Damian
    Bless

    Anthony Venn-BrownAnthony Venn-Brown
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    HI Damian…..I believe Homosexuals Anonymous still exists in some places……have you heard anything or this

    AvatarDamian
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    Thanks Phoenix! I haven’t had a lot to do with churches or religion since leaving HA but attend Buddhist talks on a regular basis and am more into spirituality these days 🙂 Anthony, HA does have a group on social media, i did some investigating a while ago and their website had closed down but they seem to still be running through some religious organization that has an online chat room which also offers Skype talk aswell

    Anthony Venn-BrownAnthony Venn-Brown
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    Hi Damian…..you may have noticed that I changed your subject line to include homosexuals anonymous as many won’t know what HA is and also we want it to come up in searches. I think we talked about this before…..it was pretty much a Catholic Group wasn’t it. Or was it linked to the one founded by Seventh Day Adventist and huge moral failure, Colin Cook.

    AvatarDamian
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    Brilliant, thanks for that! I’m not sure about how HA first started, it was predominantly Catholic when i was involved but it was also open to everyone and all religions, i was very young when involved and the guy i was living with messed with my head big time, i was told that the homosexual “lifestyle” was sinful but then i was being told where the local beats were and had sexual advances made towards me, i had no idea what a beat was back then, I’m not 100% sure but i think sometimes HA were doing outreach at beats! I’d heard years ago that the Catholic church were still involved in WA but not sure if that is true. I have no idea if Homosexuals Anonymous is still running in WA

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