The fruit grows through connection with the Holy Spirit.
I learned today that people’s intentions may be right and coming from a sincerety of belief about what is right or wrong; but can sometimes be promoted in a spirit of judgment. And that is when people get hurt.
We want to stay true to our beliefs, and also accommodate others with love and grace, and without judgment. And we need believers around us like this.
When we meet such ones, we find the fruit of the Holy Spirit in their lives.
It may take a while to find the right faith based church with fruit-bearers. But it is worth the search.