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A Life of Unlearning – why three editions

By |2026-02-04T12:37:05+11:00December 24th, 2021|Categories: A Life of Unlearning, Conversion therapy, Gay Christian|

2004 A Life of Unlearning – coming out of the church, one man’s struggle. Published by New Holland. This was only released in Australia, sadly, but it became a bestseller here and sold out. When I wrote the first edition in the early 2000s, I had a limited understanding of writing (I had never [...]

Double your donation to ABBI this GiveOUT Day

By |2026-10-10T18:27:34+11:00October 10th, 2026|Categories: General|

For 13 years, Ambassadors & Bridge Builders International (ABBI) has provided education, advocacy, and support to create understanding and acceptance for LGBTQIA+ people, particularly those from religious and faith backgrounds. It has always been important work—and at times, lifesaving. Today, it is more important than ever. Through 𝗥𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗯𝗼𝘄 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗔𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗮’𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗻𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗿, 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗢𝗨𝗧 𝗗𝗮𝘆, [...]

Pride in Practice Conference: What’s faith got to do with it?

By |2026-09-02T15:59:45+10:00September 2nd, 2026|Categories: LGBTQ Therapy, Training, Video|

Preamble We often discuss LGBTQ+ intersectionality, but LGBTQ+ people of faith and those from faith backgrounds are frequently overlooked, despite their distinct needs. Many assume being religious and LGBTQ+ are incompatible. For some LGBTQ+ individuals, however, faith is an integral part of their identity, connected with family and/or culture. Others may have distanced themselves [...]

How to respond when you child comes out as non-binary

By |2026-08-31T14:58:17+10:00August 31st, 2026|Categories: General, Podcast, Video|Tags: |

Raising a non-binary child: listening, loving, and learning I was very moved watching this episode of the Change Podcast with my friend Dr Shane Clifton, his trans daughter Jemma, and Celine Serrano-Diaz about raising her seven-year-old non-binary child, Judah. There is so much noise these days about transgender, gender diverse and non-binary children. [...]

Why Have a Wear It Purple Day 2026?

By |2026-08-28T12:56:52+10:00August 28th, 2026|Categories: General|

Why Have a Wear It Purple Day? Because growing up is challenging enough. Young people are already trying to work out who they are, where they belong and how they fit into the world. LGBTQIA+ young people can carry an additional burden: being bullied or ridiculed by their peers, used as a political football [...]

Self-Hatred has Two Destinations – Inward and Outward

By |2026-08-02T15:27:34+10:00July 30th, 2026|Categories: A Life of Unlearning, General, LGBTQ Therapy|

When self-hatred is turned inward Finding freedom from self-hatred When self-hatred is projected outward Conclusion The most dangerous form of hatred isn't always directed at other people. Sometimes it's directed at ourselves. The trouble is that self-hatred never leaves us where it began. It always has consequences. It either turns inward and slowly destroys [...]

Kim Zember – the storyteller

By |2026-06-29T19:23:40+10:00June 29th, 2026|Categories: Church, Conversion therapy, Gay Christian|

Monday night I was at a Catholic meeting to hear Kim Zember. It was a night of shocks. – three actually.  The arrival Kim Zenber the storyteller A Pentecostal/evangelical message Brokenness But Kim, what about? Reflection and debrief over a chardy or two Here's your take aways Most sensible Sydneysiders stayed home last Monday [...]

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